Life with Asperger’s is a privately owned website that was created by Lisa Anthony.
The site was created to help those with Asperger’s or Autism Spectrum Disorder learn the skills they need to be successful in life and to overcome the many challenges most face every day.
For the parents, guardians, and family members of those on the spectrum, the site serves as an important resource and means to better understand the disorder and how to give the support, encouragement, and assistance needed to their child or loved one.
Lisa is a 34 year old single mom and entrepreneur with Asperger’s Syndrome living in the United States. Although she struggled her whole life dealing with the disorder, she was not diagnosed until she was 29 years old.
During much of her childhood, teen years, and even adult life, she spent much of her time avoiding social contact. With very few, and at times, no, friends, Lisa felt incredibly lonely and confused as to why she was different and incapable of forming and maintaining healthy relationships with people.
Even the simplest interactions could be incredibly difficult and caused her severe anxiety. She preferred to stay alone in her room, safely hidden away from dealing with such immense pressure. Lacking the necessary emotional connections and relationships needed to maintain a positive and healthy attitude, she became lonely and developed severe depression.
Unfortunately, Lisa’s parents and family were unaware of her inner struggles, and her struggle with communicating made telling them impossible.
With a lack of awareness of Autism Spectrum Disorders, they assumed her unusual behavior was due to nothing more than personality quirks and shyness. Lisa didn’t understand it either, and so was left to try to adapt and survive without the knowledge, support, therapies, and tools available today.
At the age of 18, Lisa began working and living on her own, greatly desiring the independence and freedom she long hoped would finally help her fit in. Unfortunately, her plan didn’t work.
Although she did manage to try new things and talk to some new people, she continued to struggle with the same problems she had all her life.
In her 20s, her life really went downhill. She had her daughter at the age of 21, after which she married the father, a man over twice her age. The marriage was abusive and ended in divorce in 2012.
Unfortunately, the struggles only continued as she jumped into another problematic relationship. That relationship lasted several years and came with a totally new set of problems. After the relationship ended, Lisa suffered from severe depression and anxiety.
She sought out help from a local mental health clinic where she received counseling. After several months of sessions, she learned that the cause of her struggles and social deficits were due to Asperger’s Syndrome.
At the age of 29, she was officially diagnosed. Told that the disorder is incurable and lifelong, she was unclear where to go from there.
Unable to get on disability and finding that there were no therapies or local support groups to help her, she came up with her own solution.
Lisa began studying what she could about the disorder, taking diagnostic tests, reading numerous articles, and doing everything she could to better understand it and identify her weaknesses.
From there she began learning and developing skills. What others picked up on naturally, she had to learn manually. She sought to learn all the things that would enable her to succeed. As her knowledge grew, her confidence did also, reducing her anxiety.
Over the last 4 years or so, Lisa’s life has dramatically changed. Although she still feels “odd”, she has been able to make new friends both in-person and online. She runs her own business and even does some public speaking.
Lisa decided to start this website to be able to share what she learned and to help others avoid the mistakes she made.